As a personal trainer and nutrition coach, I often see people who are struggling with their own health and wellness goals because they are so busy allowing other people's problems to become their problem.
I am super guilty of this. It doesn’t always have to be a problem that we allow to get in our way. Sometimes it may just be something that your significant other wants to do not knowing that you already have plans.
How many times do you not go to the gym or put off your run because he or she wants to go shopping and would like you to go with them?
How many times do you change your schedule because your boss decides that this thing needs to be done immediately which may take you past your normal hours and into your workout time?
How many times does one of the kids’ schedule conflicts with you getting the meal prep done?
How much of this can be avoided?
If you really look at it, how many times could you have said, Sorry I planned on doing this. After I am done, I would be more than happy to help you or take you somewhere.
While it's admirable to want to help others, it's important to remember that your own health and well-being should always come first. In fact, letting other people's problems become your problem can be incredibly damaging to your own mental and physical health. It becomes very frustrating when you cannot accomplish what you need to accomplish.
I’m reminded of being on an airplane. It is of utmost importance that you put your oxygen mask on first before anyone else. If you pass out, you cannot help anyone.
The same goes for your diet and exercise routine. If you are constantly interrupting it because everyone else needs something then eventually you are not going to be able to get anything done.
You will become miserable and resentful and most likely the people you are helping will still be unsatisfied.
I had an old timer tell me a long time ago. “Kid make sure you stay selfish. Make sure you take care of yourself. Because if you don’t you will never be happy. The only person that is capable of taking care of you is you. If you take care of everyone. They won’t be happy, and neither will you. At least if you take care of you, you will be happy!”
So, what can you do to avoid letting other people's problems become your problems? Here are a few tips:
1. Set boundaries: It's important to set boundaries with the people in your life and let them know that while you care about them, you can't always take on their problems or help them out..
2. Practice self-care: Make sure to prioritize your own health and wellness by setting aside time for workouts, meal planning, and other self-care practices. Things happen, sometimes you need to rearrange your schedule. Do not let it become a habit.
3. Seek support: If you find that you are struggling to balance your own health and wellness goals with the needs of the people in your life, consider seeking support from a therapist or coach who can help you navigate these challenges.
Remember, taking care of your own health and well-being is not selfish. In fact, it's essential if you want to be able to show up as your best self for the people in your life. So, don't be afraid to prioritize yourself and your own needs. Your health and wellness are worth it!